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The Quality of Adolescent Sexual Experiences
 
 
 
 
 




Adolescent Homosexual Encounters

 



A common form of covert homosexual behavior among girls is seen in the "crushes" that are frequent during early adolescence. Crushes between adolescent girls constitute part of the normal course of development. Of 295 women interviewed by Landis et al (1940), all but twenty-two reported having such experiences. In about 33 out of 34 cases these crushes were outgrown, but the thirty-fourth case remained fixed at this level of sexuality and became overtly homosexual. About a third of the males interviewed by Kinsey had a single homosexual experience, and half of this number had the experience between the ages of twelve and fourteen and had no further experiences later (Gagnor and Simon, March 1968).


The following case shows homosexual experience for what it is for many adolescents, namely a passing pleasant phase of growing up. A temporary homosexual orientation is quite common among adolescent boys and frequently finds expression in such acts as masturbation. At the age of thirteen, my best friend and I would, during fits of passion, hold hands and stroke our bodies. The immediate experience that comes to mind was one evening we were studying in his room. The conversation turned to girls, and we both became aroused. A little prodding and agreement by both of us soon found us without clothes on his bed. We examined our bodies with erections on and made many passes with our hands, legs, and arms, but not face, at each other's genitals. This behavior lasted for about 15-20 minutes, with neither of us reaching orgasm. The feelings generated during this experience were ones of complete ecstasy and abandonment to our sexual impulses.


There were no verbal remarks of passion, but more or less a humorous approach to the experience. Upon completion, after we were dressed again, there was little guilt feeling other than the sense of possible detection by his family. The intimacy with my friend continued for about a year or longer. What decided that we stop these actions was not a conscious exercise on our part, but more or less disinterest in engaging in male intimacy as we had experienced before. At no time do I recall reaching orgasm with my friend. Also during this time I was engaged in masturbatory practices totaling on the average 3-4 times a week.


The guilt that I experienced from masturbation was more than the guilt I felt with my friend. In retrospect, I view the episodes with some fondness. At the age of twelve, masturbation became a regular facet of my sex life. An older boy became the initiator of this practice for me. We would indulge in various forms of masturbation, including mutual masturbation. I remember the first time I tried masturbating; there were four of us all staying at our lake cottage-only the one boy had masturbated before, so he showed us how, and we all tried it. After that, through junior high, group masturbation such as this was not uncommon and it was freely talked about by the boys. In ninth grade, we would still masturbate together occasionally, often with a Playboy pin-up az a stimulant.


It was probably when I was thirteen that much experimentation took place. My friends and I were soon having group masturbation, and sometimes we had contests to see who could achieve ejaculation the fastest. From the reading of the anthropological literature, it can be inferred that in cultures where the sexes are kept separated in adolescence there is more homosexuality than in cultures that are more permissive (Campbell, 1939, p. 546). Isolation of the sexes contributes to homosexual sex interest, and even morbid sex interest.


During this whole first year at military academy, we were all considered as the scum of the earth, and then some. We were all ridiculed and called different names. Some of mine were too vulgar to put into print. The most embarrassing part of all was when the upperclassmen would ask me about certain aspects of sex. Many boys were told to write papers on different parts of the reproductive organs or else they would be forced to do numerous unpleasant duties for the "old men".




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