Female Aggression in Sexual Encounters
Anxiety and guilt about aggression is more common for girls than for boys
(Maccoby, 1966, p. 326). Women in the United States, while less aggressive sexually
than males, may nevertheless expect and desire male sexual aggression.
Female desire for more male aggression
I felt most fortunate to be shown such respect, but I often wished
that he would take more initiative. I wanted him to be just a bit
more aggressive so that I would have to tell him no. There seemed
to be something very romantic about a boy so filled with desire that
the girl would have to tell him to stop.
Females, including adolescents, are sometimes sexually aggressive.
I was a junior at a military academy. Girls would come up on
chartered buses from their respective girls' schools for occasional
dances. Many of these were so love-starved that they would almost
rape their dates. I believe the main force that made them act this
way was that the schools that they attended were too strict, and
therefore when they got to the academy and were free, they just let
themselves go. The boys were all on the lookout for one good night,
and anyone who could procure condoms was a much sought after
person.
Desire for erotic prestige item
She once argued that she wanted a 'hickey' because one of her
girlfriends had them all over her neck.
Suggestive apparel
She would wear this real loose, low-neck blouse to dance in when I
came over, and would always lean over and give me a full-sized
view of her breasts whether I wanted to look or not.
Suggestive apparel and suggestive talk
She wore a particularly low-cut dress that night. I remember
telling her that she had better not let me drink any of the beer that
I had gotten, or I would probably rape her. She laughed and said
she'd enjoy it.
Female Strategy-Propositioning
One night at a dance, I was just standing there talking with a
bunch of friends, and the girl I had just danced with up and said,
"He's going to fuck me tonight." This floored everyone, especially
myself. When we went out and parked, I found out that she meant
what she said.
Birthdays are nice, but birthday presents are better. I received my
best present to date, when I was about seventeen years old. I had
known this young lady for some months so she knew that I had a
birthday soon. She wasn't my girlfriend, but we were somewhat
"sweet" on one another. She asked me to come to her house after
school that day, so I did. When I got there I realized that we were alone.