I was completely shocked and very enraged to be stopped again at the last second. I indicated that if she did not cooperate we were through. Well, this worked pretty good, and she literally attacked me and we had sexual intercourse-with no love, at least on my part, involved. Shortly afterwards (two days to be exact), having declared our love for each other, we had sexual intercourse again-but with love involved this time. There was no comparison between the first and this time. This time it was an enjoyable and rewarding experience.
We continued having intercourse (on every occasion using a
prophylactic) for the rest of the school year and through summer
vacation, at a frequency of about 0 to 4 times a week. But even
when she did not reach orgasm, she seemed to be satisfied or happy.
Probably she liked to make me happy. When she did not reach
orgasm, we would often have intercourse shortly later, and I would
concentrate on lasting long enough so that she would be able to
reach orgasm. Coitus was for us very enjoyable, and brought us
even closer together.
"Easy Lays," "Downers," or "Sexual
Adventurers" in Adolescent Coital Encounters
Adolescent boys not infrequently date a girl with a reputation for sexual
permissiveness for the purpose of engaging in coitus. Sorensen classified 69 percent of
all adolescent girls in the United States as "sexual adventurers" (Sorensen, 1973, p.
249). Twenty-four percent of all boys are "sexual adventurers." Sorensen defines an
adventurer as one who moves freely from one partner to another, and who feels no
obligation to be faithful to any sex partner (Sorensen, 1973, p. 121).
Sometimes guys would remark right in class, "Well, Betty, I can
take you out tonight." All the guys would laugh, and the girls would
turn red. These kids were considered as such, and no one felt much
about it-not meaning it was right, but that there will always be
people like this.
She does on her first date what it would normally take a decent
date ten dates to do. She's got hot hands. She pets easily.
It depends on the guy. If I'd had more time in high school, I could
have screwed maybe ten more. I made five. Three of them were
virgins. Some of the guys in high school don't have the courage to do
it. Some guys do.
I first had intercourse at about the age of sixteen. I did this out of
spite and betrayal. I had been going with a girl from another part of
the city-a lower class, white section. I treated this girl with
respect and had trusted her. Although not too intelligent, she was
warm and nice, I thought, and we just made out. For example, we
did this when she was baby-sitting. However, she had been going to
bed with other guys when I was not around. When I found out, I
decided to have intercourse with her, and afterward I broke up with
her. I was not worried about not knowing the right techniques even
though I had not done it before, because I knew where everything
was. She got her moans and groans out of it. I considered myself
quite tolerant and believe that everybody in entitled to a mistake,
but her promiscuity and betrayal of my trust overshadowed
everything else.
Gonorrhea was not the only thing I got from first intercourse. We
had a bet, you know; the first guy that gets it would get a quart of
beer from everybody. Well, there were three or four guys running
around getting it, and I was the first one to let it out in the open, so
I collected. I wasn't the first guy; there were about two or four guys,
I don't know, but I was the first one who came out and said it. You
know, it didn't involve any names or reputations. These others were
their girlfriends while I had been with a "degenerate." She gave me
gonorrhea, that's what she did-Jesus Christ!! I went to a doctor
and got shots, penicillin shots. It was cured after a week. I didn't
tell my parents because I didn't feel it was necessary, but finally I
told my father because, actually, I needed financial aid. It was
going to cost twenty-three dollars, and he is very understanding,
you know? Like my mother is a very old-fashioned Norwegian
Lutheran with whom sex is just taboo. But this cleared up in two
weeks, so there was no worries... It just ruined me because you
can't pick up a virgin because you might get her pregnant; you
can't pick up a pig because you got some disease. You know, and it
sort of shakes you!