I began to spend more and more time trying to contrive a plan to get her trust so she would permit me to de-virginize her. Finally things began to look up for me. She and I had been parking. I completely stripped her and tried to make love to her, but again she cried and refused. After a few histrionics, I feigned repentance and said, "You're right and I'm wrong. I shouldn't ask you to prove yourself." When I said this, she threw her arms around me, and cried, saying, 'Now I know you love me, honey. Please stop the car- I'm not afraid anymore.' Thus she and her virginity were soon parted.
Male Strategy-Persistence
She was not willing sexually a long time. I would have to park at
nine and maybe by midnight I would be able to play with her
breasts.
We (a girl of fourteen and a boy of sixteen) progressed from making
out sitting up, to lying down, to humping, to petting, then it ended
with the clothes off and finger fucking, so they call it. I also
stimulated him, very crudely though, for I didn't know what to do
and he did not inform me on what to do. There were times during
our nine months of dating when I just didn't feel like having sex.
He would become very mad and just continue no matter what I did.
He would pump his index finger in and out of my vagina with force.
I would go "ah, you're hurting me" but he would get mad at me. As
you can see, he was very demanding and what he wanted, he
received. Believe it or not, the relationship ended without
intercourse, but I feel it had a very damaging effect on my feelings
toward sex.
Male Strategy-"The pickup"
Two boys, whom we knew but were older than we were, drove by
and asked if we wanted to ride home. Daringly, we said yes, and got
in. Finally, we brought my girlfriend home, and then the other boy.
My turn was next, but my 'date' did not head toward my house.
Before I knew what was happening, he was begging me and saying
those words that I will never forget, 'Please, it will be all right; I
have all the equipment; nothing can happen.'
Male Strategy- "Date" with a known "one night stand"
I thought that it was time I lost my virginity. Most of the friends I had
were not virgins, and to me it was degrading to still be considered a
virgin. So through curiosity, a little physical desire, and a lot of group
pressure, I had a friend fix me up with a girl whose reputation as a
one-nighter was well confirmed. She was what was termed in high
school, 'a one night stand.' Well, I took her out, lost my virginity...
Male Strategy-Look for another, accept substitute satisfactions, patiently teach, or
learn to live with frustration
After a boy has reached a certain degree of lovemaking with one
girl, he is frustrated somewhat unless he can reach the same level
with the next girl he goes with. He must either wait and teach his
present girl slowly, or he must learn to live with his frustration.
Poor male strategy and poor execution
He said he wanted to get all the parking in that he could before
winter set in because his lips always got too chapped to park in the
winter. Needless to say I was somewhat ticked because, for one
thing, I had not worked all day getting ready to park, plus, to me,
his reasoning leading up to parking seemed rather asinine.