The male is more willing, initially at least, to engage in oral-genital relations than is the female. According to Kinsey (1948, p. 510), a "considerable portion" of males actually attempt auto-fellation, at least in early adolescence. But it is anatomically impossible for all except a small percentage of males. Oral-genital activity is not as prevalent in adolescent dating as is petting, heavy petting, or coitus. Many couples never engage in oral-genital sex, and an even smaller number ever engage in sexual intimacy directly involving the anus. My steady began desiring different outlets, such as oral-genital contacts. I was a confirmed believer that anything other than sexual intercourse was against the will of God, and that it made sex dirty. He was filled with curiosity as both of us had been in the past; but the problem here was that I did not share the curiosity and need for experimentation this time. This was the first time we disagreed sexually, and the conflict itself was quite violent.
While kissing her in the area of the breasts and stomach, I decided
to try oral-genital stimulation. In making my way to the genital
area, the thoughts crossed my mind that this is really against moral
rules, and what if I found either the odor or taste revolting. Once in
the area, I found the girl to be urging me to go on and I found it to
be very stimulating for the girl and that it had a stimulating effect
on myself also. During the next few heavy petting sessions, I used
oral-genital stimulation regularly, and finally during one session
she stimulated me through oral-genital means.
We were engaging in heavy petting until there was nothing left but
intercourse. It was during this state when I engaged in cunnilingus
with my girl. This was the first time that I had experienced this
action, and the sensation of it aroused my girl so much that she
went into a state of semi-orgasm. From this date to the present, our
kissing and embracing always end up with 'heavy petting' of the
genital area.
Male Aggression in Sexual Encounters
If a relationship is to progress from less to more advanced stages of intimacy, it is
necessary that one partner take some aggressive action to move the relationship
along, since each advance does not come automatically in activity involving so much
awe and trauma. The adolescent male is more often the sexual aggressor than is the
female. The following cases illustrate the various techniques and procedures employed
by sexually aggressive adolescent males.
Male Strategy-The direct approach
One time out in the barn, I (a girl) was doing some chores when my
cousin came in, and, as I stood there, he zipped down my jacket, felt
of my breasts, and asked me, 'Do you want to?' I remember the
thought, 'Want to what?' running through my mind. I stammered
out a 'No!' and he left.
Male Strategy-"I love you."
I was even so 'low' as to tell her that I loved her because I
discovered that it was a quick way of turning her on.
Male Strategy-"Hump or dump"
My intentions for her were the same as I had planned for all the
girls since I broke with my steady, that was to go as far as possible;
in other words, she was a 'hump or dump' sort of date.