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The Quality of Adolescent Sexual Experiences
 
 
 
 
 




Petting to Orgasm

 



Twenty percent of the older boys in the Ramsey (1943) sample had petted to climax without having coitus. Most of them reported that this eliminated the nervous tension that usually accompanies heavy petting in which there is no orgasm. The following cases deal with the phenomenon of petting to orgasm. The first erection, orgasm, and ejaculation in a petting situation often come as a complete surprise, and cause some doubt and embarrassment to the inexperienced dater. We parked for hours, had no clothes on, and experimented with about everything. I really think he was too dumb to know how to go about it. We both got excited and he had his climax, but we never even knew through instinct or knowledge what had to be done. Lying side by side she, moved her thigh up between mine. I felt embarrassed that she was feeling my erect penis. She moved her body and I experienced orgasm and ejaculation almost immediately. I did not know what we had done. The joy of it at the moment was replaced by doubts about her and questions about myself.


Almost before I realized what had happened, he was lying on top of me. This realization seemed to hit me like a flash of lightning, and my first thought was, 'My god, what am I doing!' Still, I made no attempt to get up, for I kept hearing, 'Don't be afraid, I'm not going to try anything.' After probably a minute or two, he found it necessary to ejaculate. My feelings were a sort of combination between repulsiveness and pleasure. She is an excellent French kisser, and seems to enjoy it, and almost always initiates that before I even get there. And this in my case results in an orgasm.


At the time this experience first started, I was seventeen and she was fifteen. It seems that at the end of the nights we spent together, we would end up on the davenport. This, then, was the desire we each had for each other. We would fondle, kiss, and caress each other. On some occasions, I would either kiss or fondle her breasts. She was stimulated the most from this fondling and caressing. She had orgasms, for she would pant and groan heavily, and would also arch her back. She would also put her arms around me and hold on to me very tightly. As for myself, the greatest satisfaction I had is when I either kissed or fondled her breasts. The result of this was orgasm, ejaculation, and sexual satisfaction. The farther along in the relationship, the more intimate we got. We also went through French kissing. This started as a result of gum. I would have a stick of gum in my mouth and I would release it in her mouth. After it was in her mouth, our tongues went in each other's mouths. The result of this is that we held each other tighter. She mentioned that the relationship for her was the most beautiful thing that has ever happened to her. I can also say the same thing. It is something you have to experience, because there are no words to express the feelings involved in a relationship in which love is so vivid. We would pet to orgasm four or five times a week, and maybe even more.


Nudity and "Bedding-Down" Sans Coitus


Adults who have had experience with the progression in sexual intimacy to the point of coitus are sometimes incredulous at the amount of opportunity and stimulation teenagers can permit themselves without engaging in coitus. Inexperience, fear, and guilt are major inhibiting factors. There were several instances when we ended up in either my bed or his when our parents weren't home. The fear of someone walking in always took away some of the pleasure I might have received from the situation. We slept together. That means just what is said. We did not do anything sexually, but simply slept together. I would have loved nothing better than to give myself to him completely and to take all of him. But by this time I had come to realize the meaning and importance of sex, and we knew that if it was God's will, we would marry some day, and then we could have each other.


We undressed each other until we were naked. Still petting heavily, I found myself in a situation in which I wanted to have sexual intercourse with her and I know she wanted it too. She pulled me on top of her. I was petrified with the thought of coitus at this point, and I remember thoughts ran through my head: I was only a senior in high school and she a sophomore; I didn't have the slightest idea as to what period her menstrual cycle was in, and I knew I didn't want to get her pregnant, so I backed off.




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