Twenty percent of the older boys in the Ramsey (1943) sample had petted to climax without having coitus. Most of them reported that this eliminated the nervous tension that usually accompanies heavy petting in which there is no orgasm. The following cases deal with the phenomenon of petting to orgasm. The first erection, orgasm, and ejaculation in a petting situation often come as a complete surprise, and cause some doubt and embarrassment to the inexperienced dater. We parked for hours, had no clothes on, and experimented with about everything. I really think he was too dumb to know how to go about it. We both got excited and he had his climax, but we never even knew through instinct or knowledge what had to be done. Lying side by side she, moved her thigh up between mine. I felt embarrassed that she was feeling my erect penis. She moved her body and I experienced orgasm and ejaculation almost immediately. I did not know what we had done. The joy of it at the moment was replaced by doubts about her and questions about myself.
Almost before I realized what had happened, he was lying on top of
me. This realization seemed to hit me like a flash of lightning, and
my first thought was, 'My god, what am I doing!' Still, I made no
attempt to get up, for I kept hearing, 'Don't be afraid, I'm not going
to try anything.' After probably a minute or two, he found it
necessary to ejaculate. My feelings were a sort of combination
between repulsiveness and pleasure.
She is an excellent French kisser, and seems to enjoy it, and almost
always initiates that before I even get there. And this in my case
results in an orgasm.
At the time this experience first started, I was seventeen and she
was fifteen. It seems that at the end of the nights we spent together,
we would end up on the davenport. This, then, was the desire we
each had for each other. We would fondle, kiss, and caress each
other. On some occasions, I would either kiss or fondle her breasts.
She was stimulated the most from this fondling and caressing. She
had orgasms, for she would pant and groan heavily, and would also
arch her back. She would also put her arms around me and hold on
to me very tightly. As for myself, the greatest satisfaction I had is
when I either kissed or fondled her breasts. The result of this was
orgasm, ejaculation, and sexual satisfaction. The farther along in
the relationship, the more intimate we got. We also went through
French kissing. This started as a result of gum. I would have a stick
of gum in my mouth and I would release it in her mouth. After it
was in her mouth, our tongues went in each other's mouths. The
result of this is that we held each other tighter. She mentioned that
the relationship for her was the most beautiful thing that has ever
happened to her. I can also say the same thing. It is something you
have to experience, because there are no words to express the
feelings involved in a relationship in which love is so vivid.
We would pet to orgasm four or five times a week, and maybe even
more.
Nudity and "Bedding-Down" Sans Coitus
Adults who have had experience with the progression in sexual intimacy to the
point of coitus are sometimes incredulous at the amount of opportunity and
stimulation teenagers can permit themselves without engaging in coitus.
Inexperience, fear, and guilt are major inhibiting factors.
There were several instances when we ended up in either my bed or
his when our parents weren't home. The fear of someone walking in
always took away some of the pleasure I might have received from
the situation.
We slept together. That means just what is said. We did not do
anything sexually, but simply slept together. I would have loved
nothing better than to give myself to him completely and to take all
of him. But by this time I had come to realize the meaning and
importance of sex, and we knew that if it was God's will, we would
marry some day, and then we could have each other.
We undressed each other until we were naked. Still petting heavily,
I found myself in a situation in which I wanted to have sexual
intercourse with her and I know she wanted it too. She pulled me
on top of her. I was petrified with the thought of coitus at this point,
and I remember thoughts ran through my head: I was only a senior
in high school and she a sophomore; I didn't have the slightest idea
as to what period her menstrual cycle was in, and I knew I didn't
want to get her pregnant, so I backed off.