Situations and settings are especially important for adolescents because of the desire and the need for privacy. Such settings include: the unattended home, the automobile, the out of doors, and the hotel, among others. Most have first coitus in either their own home or their first sex partner's home (Sorensen, 1973, p. 192). The conditions for or props to adolescent erotic play, such as suggestive dress, suggestive talk, suggestive songs, and dancing, are also important supporting elements. We look first at the unattended home; the common setting for erotic play among adolescents.
The Unattended Home
When I was in eighth grade I began dating a boy who was a year
older than I... One afternoon he invited me to come over to his
house, as his parents and the rest of the family had gone away for
the day. I told my parents I was going over to a girlfriend's house,
and then proceeded to ride my bike over to his house. After I had
been there awhile we began kissing, which was nothing unusual as
we had often kissed before. But the longer we kissed the more
excited he became.
I had never seen him this way before and as
naive as I was, couldn't figure out why he was breathing so heavy.
Before long he had managed to get me to lie down, with him on top
of me. His penis had become hard and he was moving back and
forth. I really didn't know what was happening, so I just lay there,
never moving. The pressure of his weight and the hardness of his
penis made the position very uncomfortable for me. I was actually
in pain. But besides being very uncomfortable, I couldn't figure out
what this hard bone was that was cutting me. I had no idea that the
penis ever became hard, and the thought that it might be his penis
never even entered my mind.
When I asked him to please get off
me, he couldn't understand why I hadn't received any enjoyment
from this act. The thought of having a boy climb on top of me ever
again made me ill. I could see no enjoyment in it at all and
preferred to merely kiss. I thought that a boy was terribly selfish to
ask a girl to do something like that, which was so painful. None of
my friends ever talked about a penis, it was just one of those things
you never mentioned. To talk about a penis would have meant you
had a dirty mind.
My girlfriend's parents were out of town for the weekend. After the
typical ritual of kissing and heavy petting she and I retired to the
bedroom. We had gone this route several times before.
My parents had gone out for the night. She and I went over to my
house and went to bed. This encounter was more enjoyable than the
first because we didn't have any clothes to get in our way, and we
were in a more comfortable position in bed.
We celebrated our first "going steady" anniversary. My brother was
at Bible camp. My sister was out of town. He came over one
afternoon to take me water-skiing. I wasn't ready yet, so he came in
my bedroom while I finished dressing. He began kissing my neck
and then undressed me and carried me to the bed. He undressed
me quickly-I remember the shock of seeing his body naked. I lay
there watching him. He's very muscular, and for the first time I
realized the male physique to be very beautiful. I gave little
thought to what would happen. From the look in his eyes I knew.