This going steady is not good. I get too serious about a girl right off the bat. This shows lack of dating experience. I simply haven't been around enough to know what I should be thinking right now. I would say going steady in high school is the downfall of good wholesome relationships, for one soon becomes excluded from his group. He does not gain proper knowledge of the different types of people of the opposite sex.
When the time comes for him to find one
to marry, he may be misled to a maladjusted relationship. If I had
the chance to live it over again, I would be sure not to go steadily
with anyone, but would play the field in my younger days. Even
though I learned much by going steady, I feel I could have learned
more by random dating of which I never took part.
I believe my biggest mistake in dating was trying to force myself to
become serious before I was ready. It is not possible to follow the
crowd in a situation such as dating, especially serious dating, and
you can't expect to fall in love just because everyone else seems to
be.
To have gone as steadily as we did leaves me with the impression
that we were cheated, or perhaps deprived is a better word, of
something in life when really quite young. It's like a chunk of our
lives is gone and we realize that it wasn't used to its fullest
advantage.
My fiance and I have been dating since we were sophomores in high
school. I have never dated anyone else and neither has he. I can't
help but feel that every time I see others in the process of random
dating, I will feel a certain degree of regret.
In view of all my dating experience, the only one I really regret is
going steady for two and a half years. Too many problems arose
that I could not handle objectively. Many of these problems could
have been solved if the period of time had been shorter.
We started to center our everyday living plus our future around
each other when we were only fifteen years of age. This made it
very difficult when we broke up, because it was the first time since
our early teens that we experienced life without a planned future
and someone to love. Both of our futures were completely changed.
The moral of the story seems to be: don't go steady while in high
school. Had I gone with her much longer, I might have been the
father of her child, which would have destroyed my chance to go to
college. I heartily agree with the idea of not going steady because
kids in high school do not seem to have a mature enough set of
values to cope with the problems that eventually arise. I learned a
lesson from going steady, but I don't recommend it as a correct way
of finding out.
I don't know how many kids my age have ever loved someone
deeply, but growing up is, I think, hard enough without
complicating one's life with love. I think growing up and being in
love as a teenager can turn out to be a nightmare. There are so
many conflicts.