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INFANT AND CHILD SEXUALITY
 
 
 
 
 





He told me to pull down my pants and he did the same

 



He told me to pull down my pants and he did the same. He had an erection and he put his penis between my legs. He said that this was how to "fuck." Being totally unfamiliar with the term and his not knowing the exact technique, I thought it was a silly thing to do and never attached any importance to the incidence. I often wonder what would have happened if he actually knew what to do. I guess I must have been a permissive, ignorant child.


Touching and Fondling


Preadolescent touching and fondling is sometimes an expression of curiosity or even conflict rather than cooperation, affection, or a budding romantic relationship. "Romances" at this age often involve rough play, teasing, hitting, hurting, and at least feigned pain, dis gust, and anger. Something we boys did in junior high quite frequently was that the guys would go around and 'bag' girls, e.g. grab a girl's breast and squeeze and then run. Gads!!


The mixed roller skating party we Girl Scouts arranged turned out to be a free-for-all with boys chasing the girls around trying to pull their hair. To play the game it was necessary that we both take down our pants and expose our genitalia. Jack had a nickel, which he was ready to toss. If I (age twelve) called the correct side of the coin as he tossed it, he would then touch his erect penis to my genitals. It was like a gentle love pat, not a forceful shove....
After the first few times, no matter which side of the coin landed up we touched our genitals every time....
I remember experiencing great pleasure when Jack's penis touched my genitals. It was a tingly feeling that surged through me. I liked the feeling and thus we engaged in the game about fifteen times that afternoon....
My only concern at the time was about those outside the closed door....
I knew that this was not something I wanted anyone to interrupt.


He came and sat down next to me, put his arm around me and kissed me, at the same time putting his hand on my breast. Since it had been arranged that I was to be with him, and since I assumed that this was as accepted as was kissing, I did not resist. It was important to me that he was interested since he was a year older than me, and therefore would be quite a status builder.


We spent this evening together, he quite fascinated with my breasts (he told me I had quite a handful), but this was the extent of the sex play....
We were never together again, nor did we even ever acknowledge that we knew each other upon meeting....
I found these seemingly innocent encounters were blown completely apart when it came to what the boys had to say about it. By the time I got to high school, I heard that locker room talk related that this boy had "laid" me.


Kissing


Kissing is one activity that many American children are familiar with from infancy and childhood. They have kissed and been kissed by their parents, their siblings, and sometimes their playmates. Kissing in preadolescence may be equally as "innocent," but it is frequently marked by confusion, embarrassment, guilt, and some erotic overtones. At about age nine, one boy...
finally caught me in a parked car in which I had hidden, and kissed me fifty times.


I (an 11 or 12 year old boy) found the idea of holding and kissing a girl (at dancing and making- out parties) enjoyable, but yet uncomfortable because a self-consciousness always presided within me. Everyone at a mixed-couple party sat on the couch with the lights out and kissed. I (a seventh grade girl) was so embarrassed and confused at such activity that I left the party early, went home and cried. I hated that boy from then on and refused to go any place with him.




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