The only penis I'd ever seen in my life was my baby brother's which can't be compared to this sixteen year old boy's. I started to scream. It was the ugliest thing I'd ever seen- big, pink, and hairy. He begged me to touch it, and grabbed my hands to make me do so. I struggled to free myself and backed as far away from him as was possible. He told me to "put it inside of me." I had no idea where it would go, and had horrible mental pictures of him stuffing it into my mouth. He vaguely explained that it would go into my bottom somehow.
He and his girlfriend
did it all the time, and she really liked it.
I couldn't believe that. I couldn't imagine
anyone enjoying any type of contact with that,
much less having it pushed inside of them. I
thought that his girlfriend was really strange,
and refused to allow him to do it to me.
I must assume that I screamed and cried so
much that he just gave up. My sister was outside
banging on the door. She was almost as upset as
I was by what was going on inside of that shed.
My cousin said that he'd let me out only if I
promised never to tell anyone about what had
happened. I was desperate and I said that I
wouldn't. I knew I'd tell my mother though. He'd
done something that was so wrong that somehow I
had to get even. I needed my own personal guilt
removed also. Telling on him would make my
actions much more honorable.
We ran back to the house as soon as I
escaped. I completely avoided him for the rest
of the afternoon. Sometimes I saw him looking at
me. I was terrified of him. I knew that I
couldn't tell anyone until we'd left his house.
Before leaving the subject of sexual encounters of children with
preadolescents and adolescents, we must say a little more about
fraternal incest, sexual encounters with siblings. Sharing the same
home, in some cases the same room or even the same bed, the
possibilities of sexual encounters are ever present. They do occur even
in families where the children are closely supervised and where such
behavior is not approved of. Cases of fraternal incest commonly stop
short of coitus. More often they involve disclosure, fondling, or
perhaps oral-genital relations. The following case of a six year old
girl child and her preadolescent (ten year old) brother is
illustrative.
I remember one Saturday evening when my parents
had gone out and my brother and I were at home
with a babysitter. I was about six years old and
my brother was ten. We had taken our "Saturday
evening bath" together, which my parents often
let us do. I thought it was great fun. My
brother wasn't always as eager to take a bath
with me as I was with him, but he was usually
willing. On this particular occasion, I imagine
because my parents weren't there to supervise,
we had been playing with my brother's penis
while in the bathtub.
When we got out of the
tub, my brother said that his penis hurt, that
it was sore. He wanted me to put a bandage on
it. I did. He said that this made his penis feel
so much better. I really couldn't imagine how a
bandage could help as his penis wasn't bleeding.
He said we'd have to do this again, but we never
did. Actually, I received no sexual enjoyment
out of fondling his penis, but I did think it
was fun.
All of the above cases involving a young child in a sexual encounter
with a preadolescent or adolescent could be lumped under an emotionally-
laden label-child molestation. But when we take a close look
at the encounters we find that the content of the interaction is infinitely
varied from case to case. To say that a preadolescent or adolescent
is molesting a younger child is far too simple and categorical a
way to deal with many of the experiences involved.