When I was about seven years old, my eleven year old neighbor girl friend and I would get together and play games which involved fondling and exploring each other's body.... A game that we played was referred to as "upper" and "lower" and this would include choosing one of the words and the other person would stimulate that portion of the body for about 10-15 minutes. This we did anywhere since it did not involve taking off clothes, just placing the hand inside the clothing. By sexual contacts I had a release to strange feelings inside me and got much physical satisfaction when arms were holding me.
The following is a case of oral-anal, oral-genital contacts between
a five or six year old boy and a boy of sixteen.
My first homosexual experience came at the age
of five or six, when I would play with this boy
who was at that time about sixteen. He would ask
me if I wanted to go into his house for something
to eat, like some cookies or something. Of
course I would go. Next he would ask me if I
would go into the bedroom with him. Upon entering
the bedroom, he would undress and ask me to
do the same. I would, probably out of fright. I
distinctly remember his body being very hairy,
so perhaps I underestimated his age. Anyway,
after undressing, he would tell me to bend over
and then he would insert his erect penis into my
anal region and start thrusting back and forth.
He would then stimulate my penis and want me to
do the same to him. We also masturbated each
other, with him reaching orgasm and myself only
being stimulated. I also spent some time in
oral-genital contact. I did find the whole experience
quite pleasing and continued to engage in
these activities for a week or two. Then, and I
don't recall why, we suddenly stopped doing it
completely.
In some homosexual encounters, the sexual activity is entirely ver
bal and consists of the older one passing on his greater sexual "knowl
edge" to a child. In both cases that follow the child reacts negatively
to the new information, in part because of the way it is presented.
I remember one scene very well. He had an older
sister. Now that sex was beginning to interest
me, I wanted to know what his sister was like.
In short, I had very little knowledge of girls.
He described her very unattractively. In fact,
it made me somewhat nauseous to think of a girl
in respect to her genitals.
My first encounter with sex as a reality was
when I was about seven or eight. A helpful older
friend casually offered me a rather vague definition
of coitus. I wasn't really at all sure of
what he meant. It seemed like a strange thing to
do with a girl as the thought had never entered
my mind before. There was no desire on my part
to learn anything more about it at the time.
The differential encounters provided in the social milieu contribute
more to a child's sexual knowledge and experience than do his physiological
readiness or his sex interest. Interest in coitus and
knowledge and acceptance of premarital coitus is well established among
boys age seven in some communities, and in some instances as early as
four years of age. (Kinsey, 1948, p. 377). Especially in some urban
communities, by age seven boys know that coitus is one of the activities
which most of their older acquaintances are engaging in; and they
have already learned that coitus is one of the things considered highly
desirable.
Much of this sexual sophistication comes from associating
with older companions. Children overhear adolescent boys talking to one
another about naked women and couples who have had sex relations. (Rogler
and Hollingshead, 1965, p. 135). The size and shape of a woman's
vagina are topics of conversation among boys and men, and younger boys
learn from older males that women are objects of sexual gratification.
As a consequence, they orient their thoughts and behavior in accordance
with what other males expect of them as young, on-the-make machos.
Kinsey found that the boy from the comparatively sheltered upper
socio-economic level home, on the other hand, was not exposed to such
experiences and was likely to confine his sex play to exhibition and
manual manipulation of the genitalia. He does not attempt coitus because,
in many instances, he has not learned that there is such a possibility.
In spite of their limited contact with coitus or information
about coitus, children raised in homes of educated parents have often
seen adult genitalia at an earlier age, however, primarily because of
the greater acceptance of nudity in their homes than in lower-class
homes. (Kinsey, 1953, p. 112).