To begin with, we discuss areas where you may be leaking sexual energy and ways to maintain and increase it.
Porn: The Real Energy Drainer
One of the most common habits among guys, is that we all have (or have access to) a porn collection that we frequently or occasionally jerk off to when we are horny, lonely, or just plain bored.
The masturbation isn't a bad thing by itself, since it's good to develop a relationship with one's self, but combining it with porn is where a few deeper problems arise.
When a guy is masturbating to porn, he is subconsciously training himself to put women on a pedestal and to give his power away to women (doing anything for them, letting women walk all over them etc.).
He imagines a sexual act in his mind but that act has shame/guilt tacked onto it. The guilt and shame arises from society, parents, the church or other authorities. The majority of programming that comes from such authorities is deeply embedded in the guy. .
Masturbating to porn triggers this programming and summons guilt and shame.'
The mind is unable to tell the difference between an imagined reality and reality itself. When a guy masturbates, his mind believes porn to be real and how the world works. ..The mind over generalizes and links things together in groups.
So when he goes out into the real world, all that guilt and shame he received while jerking it to porn gets associated with any beautiful women that he sees or talks to.
The two get linked together and approach anxiety is increased a thousand fold.
Any guy who frequently masturbates conditions himself to put women on a pedestal. He ends up placing too much importance on looks and no other qualifications because that is his only focus while masturbating to porn.
He doesn't care if the porn star has a sense of humor or read. He is focused solely on which body part turns him on the most.
So when he goes out to look for women to date, he will only look for one qualification: looks. ..
Good looking women are all over, yet many don't have an open heart and will end up making your life a living hell. If a guy only cares about looks, puts women on pedestals, and subconsciously believes that he can't get women because he isn't good enough, he will become lonely and lose his sex drive.
In this loneliness, he will turn to porn for a momentary relief from his frustration and sadness. This leads him to masturbate to porn, further reinforcing his loneliness, turning into a negative addictive cycle.
Women become fantasies and the guy starts to believe that real life women are unobtainable. Jerking it to porn is a double edge sword: On the one hand it feels good but on the other hand it reinforces the fact that the guy can't get sexual pleasure from a real woman and is forced to watch porn.
Not only that, orgasm puts the guy in a vulnerable and suggestive state. This is why many unrealistic beliefs are deeply programmed into the guy when he jerks off to porn.
One belief is that only hot women fall for guys who are in shape and have large members. Since most guys don't fit those descriptions, they develop beliefs that they are "not good enough" to get hot women or to keep them satisfied.
Since these guys put some much emphasis on looks and size, they project these beliefs onto women and believe that they care about looks and size as well.
Another problem many guys experience is ejaculating too fast when they become physical with a woman. On a deep level they usually feel guilty about masturbating to porn or about someone "catching" them do it. This fear of getting caught conditions the body to ejaculate quickly before someone sees them.