BF activities arepresent both in private and porn sexual activities: theycan be observed in the 'deep throat'oral sex in which command of salivating, breathing and of the throat's contractions is given upbythe 'throated' participant. in the anal centered activities in which the contractions of the sphincter, the escape of sounds or gas, are also beyond control. in short thosestates in which a participant stops controllinghis or her facialmuscles, soundscoming from mouthor anus. substances coming out of the anus, genitals, eyes, nose, mouth. What then is the hypothetical logical endpoint of such rituals? It
Sigmund Freud, 'The Problem of Anxiety' p7677, The Psychoanalytic Quarterly Press, 1963
Seesummary at end of 'Three Essays on the Theoryof Sexuality' (1905), Sigmund Freud, 'On Sexuality'
p155, Penguin Books, 1991 ,may quite well be the socalled 'adult baby' phenomenon, in which grown humans, and
rumors containmostlymale such, achieve their ultimate satisfaction bylooseningthe control
of all bodilyfunctions usuallyconstantlydominatedby the normal
human.
This beingdone in 'safe setting', with people - female humans - beinghired
to watchover the clientswho achieve, or attempt to achieve, total surrender to
the bodyimpulses without anyego intervention. Thus we now have at least three parallel levels
of functions of for example standard anal sex:
1. Surface pragmatic logic orgasmof the active and/or passive participant
2. Inner conflict logic torture/humiliation/domination ofthe passive participant
3. BF logic loss ofcontrol of analmuscles -as direct experience orprojection
While the 'active' participant in such gamesof control fuses completely with the
Superego, the 'passive' participant is simultaneously allowed to relinquish control of the Superego
functions.
The impulses of the passive participant are 'free', as in 'not under internal control',
and the Self has been successfullyescaped. while the impulses of the active one are under
'total control', although from the outside it all may look opposite
- the passive side being unfree and the active
one - enjoying full freedom. The active participant is allowed
also a dose of freedomwhen by fusing completely withthe harsh and
punishing Superego (the primitive persecuting Superego fromdeepest
childhood), he/she can experience the full lack
ofpersonal control of the otherparty. The freedom from selfdomination,
achieved by the passive participant in BF or SM scenario
is 'freedom introduced fromoutside'.
One is not capable of relaxingfrom within
- the Superego scars do not allow relaxationof selfdomination
(unlessthey are dulled by the necessarynumber ofpints), and therefore freedom
issought through situations in which the self domination isbrokenfrom the
outside by a domination by another human - adomination of the domination. To
put it simply: in rituals of complete control on one
side and no control on the other, the conflict of selfdomination
is resolved/evaded for the durationof the arousal bybothparticipants in the
following manner - for the passive participant there is only Self
left, but no domination practiced byit, and forthe active participant - total
domination but no Self left todominate.
Human A plays the
Superegoof human B, while human B plays the Id of humanA. Ina
way bothparticipants regress to early childhood, even to 'babyhood', human B becomingthe infant torturedby
arbitrary pressure fromoutside, reenactingat the same time the fantasy of punishment for its
sadistic desires which appear as reaction to the
outside interference. human A to the contrary, projecting all 'passive' experience onto human B,
ritualizes in 'adult' games the impulses of
the sadistic infant, that does not allow independent reality to any object, including the mother,
but rather gives free rein to it's frustration reaction impulses.