During the period of infancy and childhood, the young human isoften forced to adapt tooutside requirements at apace farbeyond comfortable and even bearable, with outside control being a constant wall betweenits impulsesand what actually takes place. Thusinone way or another everyhumanin this civilization, and most others, is familiar with a situation, in which it had to endure what at that moment seemed unendurable.
To force upon the sexual object's organism a tempo, apenetration, in short
- a situation of bodily interaction, to which this organismisnot accustomed, sometimes situation
for which it was never designed - this is a basic component in explicitlysexual
and not so, sadomasochistic practices. Apart fromprivate sexual and standard social
submission/dominationrituals, pushing beyond endurance is a
typical intermale power game, which can be witnessed fully manifested even in childhood
activities. It can be used to
transcend aninferior status (not show painwhile being burnt, cut orpinches bythe otherboy),
or to reinforce it (holding another boy's head below the water
while he struggles, in order to show dominance).
The increasinglyvisible fashionof humiliation games focused on the
female humancanthus be connected to the process of 'emancipation' of
the last decades in more thanone dimension. Notonlyin the sense ofa compensatorybacklash from
threatened malesto 'emancipation', aswiththe increase inrape scenes in mainstream movies and porn,
but also in the sense of the barbaric 'acceptance into the boy's circle'
rituals - 'so you wanna be aman bitch? But can you take it? Let's see you take it then!' Etc. Eatin' & Shittin'.
When observing the inclusion intopowersexual relations of organs andorganproperties
which belong to the mostbasic, and ancient layers of the psychic organization, we may argue
that obsessive fascination with these, are the individual's mental and emotional
dysfunction symptoms, based
onunresolved traumas from the corresponding moments in personal
history, in which these organs and organ properties were
coming underoutside or first attempts at internal control.
By redirecting
our gaze from the individual tothe social, we find
elements of such symptoms prominently participating in the interactions of symbols and concepts all
aroundus. Our civilization isa selfdubbed 'consumerist' such, and we are 'consumers':
"What is the "social character" suited totwentiethcenturycapitalism?
It needs men who cooperate smoothly inlarge groups, who want to consume more and more, and whose tastes are
standardized and can be easily influenced and anticipated."
We either consume as much as we can, or we try touse willpower
to consume only up to certain point andonlyin certain manners. Except
'consumerism', another element of the contemporary English language is the concept of
'stuffingit down the throat' - reenacted in a 'throat bang'.
The current civilizationshows
signs of strong oral and anal fixations, whichwas obvious more then five decades ago:
"Having fun consists mainly in the satisfaction ofconsuming and
"taking in". commodities, sights, food, drink, cigarettes, people, lectures, books,
movies -all are consumed, swallowed. The world is onebigobject for
our appetite, a bigapple, a big bottle, a big breast. we are the sucklers, the eternally
expectant ones, thehopeful ones - and eternally the disappointed ones" (Fromm, 'The Sane Society', p166).