The faces of female humans, when considered to display 'abandonment to desire' show emotions which are obviousto a nonarousedobserver - anxiety and pain. the face of a male that has 'abandoned itself to desire' shows the same. But the face of the male that is the active,' in control' participant in 'hard porn' type of sexualact, doesnot show pain and fear, because within the domination/submissionduality, the active male is the dominator and has merged withthe Superego completely, projecting everything else onto the passive participant - just as the passive participant has projected all cruel, persecutingSuperego significance onto the active one.
Whenraised insimilar conditions humans develop similar internal conflicts, their
muscles freeze in similar positions and their bodies develop similar blockages and
dysfunctions, but the difference insocial character in males and females often leads to the
development ofopposite symptoms and/or whole symptomatic character structures. By
Freudian logic, both boys and girls start off inthe patriarchal
civilization as 'males', as 'male personalities', but social pressures lead on one hand the girls into accepting that they are
castrated boys, and on the other the boys -that theyare under aperpetual threat of becoming
girls as well.
The divisiontakes place, successfullyor not, during the 'phallic stage', when the
boys are expected to continue in the same veinbut into directions outside
the familyunit while the females are expected
to renounce their masculinity and develop their 'natural' passive character and
sexuality. These conflictsare situateddeep below the consciousness and
are denied as adamantly as are for example impulses todestroy the parents and siblings. Both
sexes exhibit 'phallic striving' - the desire tobe a powerfulplayer within the masculine fields
of relations - and bothsexes make use of the 'fetish logic' -of symbolic penises whichare
utilized in various manners. Ordinary, males use substitute penisesto enhance their maleness,
while females use substitute penises to deactivate the vagina anxietyof the males and thus
attract them.
The males experience vagina anxiety, because the vagina proves the reality of
the possibility to lose one's penis - and when a human identifies itself withits penis
completely, this is the most formidable threat of all. Transvestite males use
the female tricks which although not biologicallyneeded, seem to work just as well, while some females use
malestyle symbolic penises inorder tobe convincing masculine players. Thus the
contemporary female residinginthe free world may be covered with fetish symbols to keep
the males from panicking - by showing 'female penises' like highheels, or bared legs, or
specific belts or belt buckles-but she may alsobe using 'male penises', inorder to have a
disguise ofsymbols whichallows entrance into the masculine
scenes of power relations, likewise homosexual malesmay use 'female penises' to attract males.
While both males and females maystart off with near identical oral and anal traumas,
as well as destructive and selfdestructive impulses, the choice
of visible ritualization of these conflicts depends of the social statusof the corresponding sexes. And while boththe males
and the females, eventhose not engaging directlyin sexual SM or BF activities, have sadistic
and masochistic impulses, due to social factors - this beinga patriarchal world the
male generallyprojects itsmasochistic ('weak') impulses on the female and the
female projects its sadistic ('strong') impulses on the male.
The projection and thus keeping below the
threshold of consciousness, of the impulses denied by the
individual's Superego, does not destroy them - theystill exist
and still exercise their influence, but clandestinely. When the male porn viewer watches the
domination and/or degradation of a female actress, this is a case
of emotional identification with the whole scene - of which the center is the
female actress.